What is dating violence?

Dating violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors—such as physical, emotional, sexual, or psychological abuse—that occur within a romantic relationship, often involving one partner exerting power and control over the other.

What does this look like?

Examples of dating violence behaviors include physical acts like hitting, slapping, or choking; emotional abuse such as constant criticism, threats, or humiliation; sexual violence including unwanted touching or coercion; and controlling behaviors like isolating a partner from friends and family or monitoring their activities excessively. These behaviors can vary in severity, but all contribute to an unhealthy and potentially dangerous relationship.

I thnk I am experiencing dating violence. What do I do?

If you're experiencing dating violence, it's crucial to prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help—consider contacting emergency services if you're in immediate danger. Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or other professional such as a teacher, counselor, or healthcare provider. Document any abusive incidents with dates, times, and details, which can be useful if you decide to involve authorities later. Consider consulting a crisis center, like The Mahoney House, for resources, safety planning, and assistance in navigating your options. Remember, you're not alone, and help is available to support you through this difficult time.

I think someone I care about is experiencing dating violence. What do I do?

If you suspect someone you care about is experiencing dating violence, it’s important to approach them with care and support, expressing your concern without judgment. Encourage them to share their feelings in a safe space and listen actively. Offer information about resources such as local domestic violence centers and counseling services, and remind them that they are not alone. Respect their autonomy and avoid pressuring them to take any specific actions, but let them know you’re there for them and willing to support their decisions. If you believe they are in immediate danger, contact emergency services to ensure their safety.

My child has started dating. How can I make sure they do not experience dating violence?

To help protect your child from dating violence, maintain open and honest communication, encouraging them to share their feelings and experiences without fear of judgment. Educate them about healthy relationships, including respect, boundaries, and consent, and discuss the warning signs of abusive behavior. Set clear expectations and boundaries regarding their dating habits. Stay involved in their social life and know their friends and activities. If you suspect any signs of abuse or manipulation, address them calmly and offer support, emphasizing their safety and well-being.